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Jul. 7th, 2012 04:23 pm Cancer :-(

The last month or so has been.... challenging.

Where shall we start? With my fiance, timpootle, I think

Just over a month ago he had a tumour (papillary lesion) removed from his bladder.  They didn't tell us at the time if it was benign or malignant, but they pumped his bladder full of chemo drugs to kill anything remaining in the bladder lining, then sent him home to wait for an appointment with his consultant.

We saw the consultant yesterday to be told that the tumour they had removed was indeed malignant rather than benign :-(

But, the consultant said it was "the nicest possible form of cancer." - so fingers crossed it won't return in a hurry, if at all.

They will look inside Tim's bladder again in a year to check on the area, and possibly yearly after that, depending on how things look.

Trying hard to focus on the low probability of it returning, rather than on the C word.

And then there is my Dad.

I have been nagging him to go to the doctors for some time, because he has had a significantly reduced appetite and just seemed out of sorts.  Finally, about a month ago, he went.

After various tests, a couple of weeks ago they did an ultrasound on his abdomen.

Yesterday, while Tim and I were with Tim's consultant in Manchester, my Dad was seeing his consultant down south.

The ultrasound had revealed that one of Dad's kidneys has been pretty much destroyed by a "fuzzy mass" (my Dad's description), the nature of which is as yet unknown.

Next steps are CT scan to get a clearer picture, and then removal of the mass along with what remains of the kidney.

At which point another appointment with his consultant will follow, and we will learn if it is a cancerous mass or not, and whether it has spread elsewhere.

Cancer is looking fairly likely though :-(

There have been several other bad things in the last 6 weeks too, but I think the things going on for Tim and my Dad are probably top of the list, and this post is long enough now anyway!

So, if you've noticed that I haven't been "firing on all cylinders" lately, my apologies.  You know why now.  
And I suspect that I may not be entirely sane for a little while longer, until I know more about my Dad's condition.

Big thank you to doctorstewie and johnhulls, my lovely boyfriends, who continue to be a source of strength and hugs, both for both myself and for timpootle.

Current Mood: numbnumb

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Date:July 7th, 2012 04:11 pm (UTC)
I am hoping that your dad and Tim will both be okay, I shall keep you all in my thoughts *squishes to you all*
Date:July 7th, 2012 04:14 pm (UTC)
:( *hugs* *tea* *Pimms* *love*
Date:July 7th, 2012 04:20 pm (UTC)
Deepest condolences Mary, I hope he's lucky and it isn't cancer. I don't know if it will help, but author Jay Lake survived it and has written extensively about it and it's affect on him and his family.
Date:July 7th, 2012 04:24 pm (UTC)
Oh, my. Glad you have your boys there for the irl huggage.
Date:July 7th, 2012 04:42 pm (UTC)
Sending lots of good and healing thoughts to you, Tim and dad. Very sorry.
Date:July 7th, 2012 05:13 pm (UTC)
cancer is a bitch. *hugs*
Date:July 7th, 2012 06:08 pm (UTC)
<sends good vibes for Tim and your Dad>

And have some <hugs> yourself; having to worry without being able to do anything about it is a very wearying thing.
Date:July 7th, 2012 06:40 pm (UTC)
Oh my, Tim *and* your Dad? Lots of *hugs*, and you know where I am if you need me.
Date:July 7th, 2012 09:10 pm (UTC)
That's rotten. I hope Tim's condition won't return, and that your Dad's condition can be dealt with.

I'm glad to hear you both have support. *giant hugs for both*
Date:July 7th, 2012 10:25 pm (UTC)
Sorry to hear that. Hope they both get good care and get a whole lot more of good life.
Date:July 7th, 2012 11:32 pm (UTC)
So sorry to hear all this. :( Can I help at all?
Date:July 8th, 2012 07:43 am (UTC)
Many good thoughts for all of you! I'm on my second ride on that particular merry-go-round (it's all in my own LJ), and, although it's certainly not anybody's idea of fun, survival rates are getting better all the time. New treatments keep coming along - things that were considered untreatable just a few years ago now can even, in some cases, be cured. (And not all diseases are cancer, of course.)

*HUGS* for everybody, even the people I don't know!

Date:July 8th, 2012 08:41 am (UTC)
Oh, gosh. My best wishes for strength for all of you.
Date:July 9th, 2012 12:04 am (UTC)
*huggles muchly* I'm really sorry I haven't been around to be supportive at all, honey. Been in hospital myself, though for somewhat less worrying stuff (having my gall bladder out, meh). I hope everything goes okay with your dad and that whatever it is will be easily handled, and that Tim's doesn't come back.

*hugs more*
Date:July 9th, 2012 04:11 pm (UTC)
Oh ma gosh, how awful for you all. Here's hoping Tim remains fine and that your dad gets the best possible outcome. Take care of yourself.
Date:July 10th, 2012 09:54 am (UTC)

God bless

Mary. I did not know all of the above. I do now and would like to say you are in my thoughts as are your loved ones. I am so sorry. Believe me I know eactly the 'numbness' you are going through. That feeling is there too stop hysteria.

God bless and pass on regards.